The mid-season premiere of Gossip Girl Season 5 will finally happen on Jan. 16 (check out the preview here!) We figure you’ve been just as anxious as us to find out if Chuck is okay and if Blair will go through with her wedding to Louis. Oh, the drama!

Have you been easing the agony by re-watching the episodes from this season? (Us, too!) Then you should be prepared to ace this pop quiz on some of the most memorable quotes this season! Check out the lines below and see if you know who said it. Write down your guesses and then check below the photo for the answers. Good luck, darlings!

  1. “I only want you to be happy. I’m just sorry it couldn’t be with me.”
  2. “He has too many PhD’s. They cancel each other out and make him a moron.”
  3. “So many minions. How are you ever going to decide?”
  4. “I really thought the days of everyone turning their backs on me were over.”
  5. “‘Flighty’? ‘Irresponsible’? I’m gonna kill him!”
  6. “Once you know how to control information, you can do anything with it.”
  7. “My best friend was right. Saying yes makes everything better.”


It’s time to rock the vote! Gossip Girl and some of the cast members are nominated for Teen Choice Awards and it’s up to the fans if they win or not. Let’s take matters into our own hands and make sure GG takes home the surfboards!

You can vote here every day. The show will air on July 22 from 8-10pm ET on Fox. Check out what categories Gossip Girl is nominated for below:

  • Choice TV Show: Drama
  • Choice TV Actor: Drama – Penn Badgley, Ed Westwick
  • Choice TV Actress: Drama – Leighton Meester

After you vote, check out the photo gallery to see Blake LivelyLeighton MeesterChace CrawfordEd Westwick, and Penn Badgley at the Teen Choice Awards through the years!

There’s nothing better than a pretty girl with a filthy mouth. That’s every guy’s fantasy

“There’s nothing better than a pretty girl with a filthy mouth.  That’s every guy’s fantasy.” 

  • Justin Timberlake let that little gem out during an interview with Cosmo.  

Something brought you here, thinking about the art and science of dirty talk.

Is the heat and chemistry in your bedroom starting to fizzle? Are you having a hard time keeping his attention?  Are you worried that he’s still really attracted to you?

Has he asked you to turn up the heat by busting out the dirty talk in the bedroom?

Are you just ready to feel more sexy, and more sexually in control?

The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty will turn you into a dirty-talk wielding vixen tonight, amazing your husband, boyfriend, or partner with new tricks, skills, and twists of phrase.   Invest two hours reading the book (or one hour doing a fast skim), and you’ll get:

  • Your sexy voice, practiced and ready to go – a tone of voice that’s sexy, perfect for dirty talk, and
  • A script to take him through his favorite fantasy, step by step, narrating like a pro
  • A full repertoire of phrases, words, and enticements
  • An understanding of  what different sexual noises and responses mean to how, and turn him on the most

Tonight, when you put the kids to bed, shut off the laptops, and head into the bedroom:

You won’t be wondering whether he thinks you’re sexy.  You won’t be struggling with ideas of what to say and what to do.   You won’t be pretending to be asleep when he walks in.

You will be completely in control, full of energy and having a great time fulfilling his every fantasy and having the best sex of your life.

All you need to do is pick up a copy of this book.  We’d love to hear about your experiences with trying this system!

XOXO – Sam

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Creative Ideas for Sending Sexy Text Messages on your iPhone or Blackberry

Smart phones make communicating with the world so much easier. There are so many things that you can do besides just being limited to a simple voice call. You can get directions, do your banking, play games, go shopping and even entice your lover. The latter can perhaps be the most fun if you know what you’re doing.

The art of seduction using sexy text messages is one that takes some getting used to and it needs to be personalized; meaning what works with one guy may not work with all guys. Here are a few things to remember when starting a sexy SMS session.

Create a Vision

Men are highly visual creatures and the things that they envision fuel their desires. Play on that sense when you are talking to your man. Talk about his favorite outfit or his favorite piece of lingerie. Tell him that you are walking around the house with just his tee shirt on thinking about him. The main idea is to give him a visual of the things that excite him about you.

Appeal to All of his Senses

Experts say that the brain is the main sexual organ of the human body and that is quite true. You want to appeal to his senses in every way. Talk about the scent that he loves best on you. Tell him that you just got out of a hot steamy bubble bath and that you are putting on his favorite after bath scent. This will make him close his eyes and smell as well as see you.

Appeal to his sense of touch by telling him that you cannot wait to feel his hands on you or that you cannot wait to put your hands all over him.

Be Detailed

Sending your man a sexy text is not just about being raunchy. Again, this is about appealing to the senses. Talk about your last love session and what you loved so much about it. Tell him how good he felt to you and make him remember all of the things that you did to him. Tell him in detail what you like that he does to you.

Sexy SMS is made easy when using an iPhone or a Blackberry because you have so many different messaging capabilities. You can use those cute emoticons to convey your message. You can even use the recording capability to send him a sexy moan or even a wet sloppy kiss when he opens his sexy texts from you.

Let your imagination and his run away. Do not be afraid to take your intimacy with your partner out of the bedroom. This will have you on his mind all day long and longing to get back home to you. If you still feel like you’re struggling with some hot SMS action,The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty offers a full chapter with suggestions that will help you become a sexting (and dirty talking!) expert.

A word of caution, remember that other eyes may be around so use care and caution when sending sexy pictures to your mate. Make sure that he has a lock code on his phone. Make sure that you can trust him not to share these pictures with anyone else. Be safe and happy sexting!

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How to Talk Dirty: Five Things Men Want from a Woman

It can be difficult to hone in on the wants and needs of another person. However, it is not as hard as we women like to make it seem. We sometimes feel like we do not know exactly what the men in our lives want. This could not be further from the truth. We listen to them, learn their habits and act on those things. We cook their favorite meals, we buy them gifts that we know that they will like and some of us even know their fashion sense enough to buy their clothes. So we need to apply this same observance and action to matters of the heart and bedroom. The same skills apply to when we are figuring out how to talk dirty to a guy. Here are a few things to keep in mind in terms of what men want when it comes to pillow talk.

Show Initiative

While men are often the more aggressive ones in the relationship, they do like to be pursued when it comes to sex. Call him up or send him a sexy text. Tell him how attractive and sexy he is to you and that you cannot wait to see him again. Talking dirty is not all about the vulgarities. It is about personalizing the experience and telling him how special he is to you and how hot he makes you. Women love to hear compliments and your man is not any different.

Be Spontaneous

It does not have to be a special occasion for a little naughty behavior. Call him at work orsend a sexy text to his phone when you know that he may be having a rough day. This is a great way to make him smile and think of you all day.

Be Detailed

You can tell by the way that guys know the scores to all of the games, and every fact about cars or their favorite hobby, that they are big on the details. When you are talking dirty to your man, help him visualize what you are talking about. Make him relive the last night of steamy sex that you had whether, it was a hot and heavy all-nighter or a passion-blazed quickie. Appeal to his senses. Make him see you, smell you and feel you all over again.

Be Confident

If you are going to make a little nasty talk with your man, this is not the time to be bashful. You have to be confident when you are telling him what you want him to do or what you want to do to him. Be firm, forceful and sexy with your approach.

Keep it in the Bedroom (or not!)

When learning how to talk dirty to a guy, you have to remember that there is a time, place, and occasion. While a little dirty talk will do wonders to turn your man on, figure out if your guy is interested in it strictly in the sack or if a whispered word out in public is a huge turn-on.  This will vary by man. You also want to make sure that your dirty talk is reserved for his ears only. These may not be things that he wants to hear you talking to your girlfriends about or that he wants his friends to overhear.

Author Devian Day wrote an incredible guide geared towards women who are interested in talking dirty to their partners. If you want to go from beginner to pro dirty talker with one book, you should consider checking out Dirty Dialogue: A Nice Girl’s Guide to Being Bad. Guaranteed to make your sex life completely mind-blowing!

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Reader Question: Boyfriend Needs Sexy Talk in Bed….All……The…….Time

How To Talk Dirty Blog is launching a new feature – once a week we’ll be picking a couple of reader questions to answer on the blog.  If you have a question, post it as a comment on this post or email.  We’ll do our best to answer every question that’s left for us, either in this column or via email.

One of our awesome readers left us a question:

My boyfriend really wants me to go into depth talking dirty to him and seems to need this in order to finish-I am at a total loss of what to say because the usual does not work with him. I’m not sure what hes looking for and its very frustrating so I’ve just been giving up lately. How do I figure out what he wants and how to do it? I”m thinking maybe we are not compatible in the bedroom-everything is fine when he is pleasing me but when its his turn I am usually exhausted and out of ideas and sexy talk. :(
Any suggestions?

Hello, friend!

Thanks for leaving this question.  I think there’s a lot going on here, so I’m going to do my best to break it down, and also to give you some really concrete things you can do right away.

There are three key things that are going on here:

  1.  He’s satisfying you – you say everything is fine when he’s pleasing you.  That means you’ve got a good base to work from, that he’s either got skills or he’s perceptive enough to pick up on what you want.   Or that you’re comfortable asking for it and you’re communicating effectively.  That’s fantastic.
  2. You know what he wants to a degree – to go in depth and talk dirty to him.  But you’re fuzzy on the specifics. (See below for some ideas).
  3. Some underlying communications and compatibility questions.   Also there’s a question of whether this is just something that turns him on, or is a hard core fetish (when you say “he needs it to finish.”)

I’m really encouraged when you say that everything is good when he’s pleasing you.   That means he’s a thoughtful guy who is thinking of his partner; he’s reading you well enough to meet your needs; and when you say “when it’s his turn” that you’re exhausted, it makes me think that he’s prioritizing your pleasure in the bedroom.   All these are SUCH GOOD THINGS.   I’m saying it in all caps because when the chemistry seems a little off, it’s easy to focus on what’s not working.  It sounds like there is still a lot to celebrate in this situation.

The fact that you’re out there trying to learn more, that you are aware some of his needs are not being met, and that you are reaching out for help all signal that you care and are interested in both growing as a partner and investing in the relationship.  Again, these definitely encourage me and make me think you guys have a lot of good material to build on.

The one question that gets raised here is communication.   Since you know he’s into dirty talk, he’s indicated at some level he enjoys that and gets turned on when you do it.  The bigger things at play seem to be what specific details he’s into and how frequently you need to whip out this particular skill to dial up the heat.

I don’t know how long you’ve been together, what sort of conversations you have, and what his style of communication is – but if it feels safe and reasonable to do, consider approaching him (not during a pressure moment or when it could be awkward) and ask him what he likes.   Tell him you know he’s into dirty talk, and ask him to tell you what about it turns him on.  Or, ask him to share his fantasies there.   One of several things could be going on:

  1. He’s into your fantasies:   Getting you to talk dirty shows him what turns you on, and tells him you’re into what’s happening.  There’s a certain kind of guy that’s less turned on by sex than by knowing he’s turning on the woman he’s with.  You narrating what’s happening, what you’re feeling, etc. gives him access to that and it in turn fuels his own desire.  Given that he’s making sure your needs are consistently met could mean that he is this type of guy.
  2. Things are a little white bread, and he’s looking for the edge:  It’s possible that he finds “basic sex” sort of vanilla, and this is an accessible way to connect with you and turn up the intensity without a fear of judgment.
  3. He’s just genuinely enjoys dirty talk:  Some guys like lingerie.  Some guys like blondes.  Some guys like feet.  Some guys just love dirty talk.

Whether or not he offers you some insight into the specifics that turn him on, I recommend a few things that you can do when the well is running dry for ideas:

  • Don’t underestimate the power of a moan, etc.:  Just be present, and react to what feels good.  But make sure you’re being verbal.  Moaning, sighs, and oh yeahs can go a long way.
  • Narrate:  Talk about what he’s doing, or what you want him to do, and how that makes you feel.   Use what’s actually going on as a script.
  • Start testing some phrases:  In general, people tend to get turned on by the same set of sexual dynamics.  It could be about power, or about your willingness to be uninhibited, or it could be more tangible, like a specific location, body part, or act.  It could be as simple as saying what feels good, or giving him compliments.   If you can start systematically trying out different things to say, you’ll hit on some gems that can be your “go to” phrases.
  • Consult an outside resource: If you’re still feeling  lost for ideas, check out one of our recommended resources. The Dirty Talk Handbook provides suggestions for hundreds of naughty phrases. It’s a great way to jump start your dirty talk.

As you are wondering whether you are compatible or not, try experimenting.

Consider changing the order around.  If you’re typically exhausted by the end of a session, try letting him finish first and pleasure you after.  That way you have more energy, whether it’s for dirty talk or something else.

Consider having specific sessions that are devoted to exploring his interest in dirty talk, and your growing skills.   You know, fun fact: the word fetish comes from the Frenchfétiche, which means “spell.”  So weave a spell – pick a scenario and weave a spell.  You can even jot down some notes beforehand, or practice.  I know it sounds weird, but when you’re alone, just try saying some stuff out loud.  This will absolutely help you get comfortable with it.

Finally, it’s important to note one thing.  When someone is dependent upon a specific thing to reach climax, it can eventually become exhausting for the partner.  Sometimes it’s an avoidance issue – something else is going on and that becomes a touch point that always allows them to let go.  Other times it really is deeply ingrained in someone’s brain – and then you can come down to a fundamental question of compatibility.   But I think it’s worth exploring these other ideas first, because you’ve got so much potential here to work with.

Good luck and keep us posted!



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How to Talk Dirty: The Power of a Moan

“In a recent survey, Cosmo found that over 50% of men are turned on by moans and other ‘sexual sounds.”

So ladies, when you’re thinking about how to turn up the heat and thinking of all the complex stuff you need to say to introduce a little dirty talk, stop and consider:

What kind of basic noises are you making in the bedroom?

I’m not talking about sounding like a porn star (but hey, if that’s your thing or his thing – more power!).

I am thinking more along these lines. If your guy is wondering “is there life in there?” when he’s trying to turn you on, you have a huge opportunity to have a major impact on your bedroom time without having to make a massive effort or even take a huge risk.

Give a little moan when something feels good, or you see something you like.

There are a lot of ways to show that you’re into him, and into sex, but if your guy is looking for a little dirty talk, you can try the following and see how it goes:

– Give a moan

– Say “That feels good”

– Go for the old standbys – “yes,” and “oh god”

So give it a shot! If it’s working for you, you may want to consider purchasing one of our recommended guides to really take things up a notch. The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty is an amazing resource for women who want to drive their man wild!

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How To Flirt With A Girl Over Text

Alright, gentlemen.  You’ve got a hot girl in mind, your smart phone in hand, and you’re wondering exactly how to make it happen: you’re wondering how to flirt with a girl over text.

Before we get started, let me be really upfront – this is written from a girl’s perspective.   I will tell you exactly what works, what doesn’t, and the kinds of signals to give depending on the message that you want to send.

I’m going to assume you’ve got a girl in mind, and you’ve got her number.   If not, you should check out these guys.  If so, keep reading.

So a few things upfront:

– Use proper English, and try to spell correctly. This makes a great first impression, and you never know up front how much a woman will value this.  Smart men who can express themselves articulately is a huge turn-on.   As you become more friendly, you can devolve into abbreviations and IM speak.  But you never want to blow it with a great girl because she assumes you’re an idiot.

– Show up. Sometimes just showing up is half the battle.  Often a guy tells a girl he’ll text or call, and doesn’t; or waits so long that the interest and the anticipation has gone way.   Don’t let yourself get so hung up on the clever hook that you actually fail to send the text.   Hey, how are you? is a decent start.

– Have some class. Texting a girl you know the dirtiest thing you can think of, before you have a connection or have reached that level, isn’t likely to get you far.  If you’re thinking that’s something you’d never do, you’d be surprised.  I can say from experience that it happens, and it can be a deal breaker even before we get started.

So why is texting a great way to flirt with girls, get the chemistry going and keep it burning?

Texting allows you to connect on your own time, take the time to think about what you’re going to say, and compose smart responses.  It lowers the pressure, rejection is way less harsh, and avoids that awkward getting to know you conversation.  It also allows you to find out more about her, and figure out what she likes.

So where to get started:

1. Remember, flirty, not raunchy.   “You looked amazing the other night,” is awesome.  “I want to do you up against my car right now.”  Less so, at least to start.

2. Ask questions.  Find out about her day, find out how she’s doing.   Ask a thought provoking question, something that will intrigue her and get her thinking.

3. Remember, texting is a medium that works best for being funny, being light, for banter.  It’s not the place to pour your heart out about fluffy’s tragic death or why you are still scarred from the locker room incident of 2008.

4. Be responsive, but not desperate.  You don’t want to answer every text, nor do you want to do so immediately.  Work the principle of scarcity – things that are harder to get are innately hotter.

If you’re looking for great examples of things to say, and don’t want to spend a lot of money, I totally recommend this guy.   His success with women is astounding, and he gives tons of examples you can put into practice right away.

So happy texting and let me know how you do.

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How to Talk Dirty to A Guy

In this short post, I want to tackle the question of – how to talk dirty to a guy. Broadly, just a guy – not necessarily your husband or your boyfriend yet, but someone you’ve met. Someone you talk to, or maybe have been intimate with.

You are seriously interested in this person and want to keep them interested in you……hooked on your every word…..coming back for more.

I think for instance, I’m going to recommend that you give dirty texting a try. Sexting has a weird reputation, as something college kids or deviants do. It’s probably true! ;)

But with the amount of time we spend with our faces stuck in the our blackberries, it absolutely makes perfect sense. So here’s what you are going to get started:

1. Get the right mindset: Sometimes talking dirty is harsh and raw; sometimes it’s light and flirty. Keep the tone fun. Nothing too nasty and nothing too dark. You’re having a good time and want your partner to feel like they are the center of your thoughts.

2. Focus on them: What do you want to do to them? What are you thinking about them? What do you want them to feel, metaphorically or really?

3. Be visual, tactile, etc. Use other senses than the obvious. Do you wish that you could run your hands through his soft beard, caress his hard muscles just after a hard workout? Do you want to smell his aftershave on your pillow? Little details go a bit distance in terms of making that connection.

So do it – whip out your phone and see what a little flirting does to move your efforts forward.

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Dirty Talk: 5 Ways to Get Started

Dirty talk is one of the easiest and hottest ways to spice up your love life.   Women often want to experiment with dirty talk in the bedroom to turn on their husbands, boyfriends, and partners.  Often the hardest part is just getting started.  Click here for the full dirty talk guide, or get started with the tips below.

1.  Start with “narrative” dirty talk: If you’re not sure how to get started or what to say, start with the easiest kind of dirty talk: narration.  Basically, with narrative dirty talk, you’re using one of four things as the basis of what you’re saying:

  • What you’re doing
  • What you’re about to do
  • What’s being done to you
  • How it feels

2.  Sexy answers: Does your partner ever ask you questions?  “Does this feel good?”  “Do you like that?”  “More?”   One easy way to be more vocal in the bedroom is just to respond to those questions.  “Yes!” and “Oh please!” and “So good!” are great places to start.  Keep it short, positive, and genuine.

3.  Sexy questions: Dirty talk is way better than if it’s a conversation.   Another way to get started is to ask your partner some questions.  Examples might be “Do you like that?”  “Is that what you want?” and “What do you want me to do now?”

4. Experiment with sounds: A big part of dirty talk is giving your partner positive reinforcement.  Another way to do this verbally is to experiment with sounds – think sighs, moans, purrs, and heavy breathing.

5.  Take a cue from what they already enjoy: Does your partner love doing it doggy style?   Maybe they love to have their ears nibbled?  Or do they get turned on more than anything by a sexy massage?  Describing those activities or incorporating keywords that will help evoke their signature turn-ons is a great way to target dirty talk to your specific audience for maximum effect.

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