It can be difficult to hone in on the wants and needs of another person. However, it is not as hard as we women like to make it seem. We sometimes feel like we do not know exactly what the men in our lives want. This could not be further from the truth. We listen to them, learn their habits and act on those things. We cook their favorite meals, we buy them gifts that we know that they will like and some of us even know their fashion sense enough to buy their clothes. So we need to apply this same observance and action to matters of the heart and bedroom. The same skills apply to when we are figuring out how to talk dirty to a guy. Here are a few things to keep in mind in terms of what men want when it comes to pillow talk.
While men are often the more aggressive ones in the relationship, they do like to be pursued when it comes to sex. Call him up or send him a sexy text. Tell him how attractive and sexy he is to you and that you cannot wait to see him again. Talking dirty is not all about the vulgarities. It is about personalizing the experience and telling him how special he is to you and how hot he makes you. Women love to hear compliments and your man is not any different.
It does not have to be a special occasion for a little naughty behavior. Call him at work orsend a sexy text to his phone when you know that he may be having a rough day. This is a great way to make him smile and think of you all day.
You can tell by the way that guys know the scores to all of the games, and every fact about cars or their favorite hobby, that they are big on the details. When you are talking dirty to your man, help him visualize what you are talking about. Make him relive the last night of steamy sex that you had whether, it was a hot and heavy all-nighter or a passion-blazed quickie. Appeal to his senses. Make him see you, smell you and feel you all over again.
If you are going to make a little nasty talk with your man, this is not the time to be bashful. You have to be confident when you are telling him what you want him to do or what you want to do to him. Be firm, forceful and sexy with your approach.
Keep it in the Bedroom (or not!)
When learning how to talk dirty to a guy, you have to remember that there is a time, place, and occasion. While a little dirty talk will do wonders to turn your man on, figure out if your guy is interested in it strictly in the sack or if a whispered word out in public is a huge turn-on. This will vary by man. You also want to make sure that your dirty talk is reserved for his ears only. These may not be things that he wants to hear you talking to your girlfriends about or that he wants his friends to overhear.
Author Devian Day wrote an incredible guide geared towards women who are interested in talking dirty to their partners. If you want to go from beginner to pro dirty talker with one book, you should consider checking out Dirty Dialogue: A Nice Girl’s Guide to Being Bad. Guaranteed to make your sex life completely mind-blowing!
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